While we were sitting at the kitchen table with the family it was remarkable how the stories about him just flowed, stories of his capacity to love his sense of humor and his generosity present in each and every story. Our friend was a kind man.
As I watched the reactions of the family it was clear to me that they were grateful to hear each and every word for indeed they were hanging on every word. remember when. When you're visiting someone who has lost a loved one it's so important to take time to share your remembrance's with the family.
To those who are grieving those stories are like a hug.
“They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it.
Death cannot kill what never dies.” ~
William Penn
thank you for this insight.
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DeleteThose are the kind of memories that make those tough gatherings so wonderful and worthwhile! Especially to the families who are dealing with the loss.
ReplyDeleteMy condolences on the lost of your friend. It's sad when we lose loved ones, but their memories will forever live on in your heart. Sending big {{{hugs}}}♥
ReplyDeleteThanks Sonya he was a sweet old guy, we're gonna miss him.
DeleteWe've lost 3 family members in the last three weeks. And you are so right. The memories. And knowing others remember, too.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about the loss of your neighbor; I am sure it was comforting witn you talking to his wife and sharing memories of him with the rest of the family. I totally do agree with you about sharing memories like this of loved ones who have passed, especially in the first few hours, days, weeks of raw grief. I know after my mom passed almost 6 years ago, my mother-in-law telling me she was sorry about her passing when we were visiting, but she never said anything else about her; it was only after my mother-in-law passed last year when we were with my father-in-law talking about my mother-in-law and sharing memories that he told me how much my mother-in-law admired my mom for raising us three kids alone, how the first Christmas card she sent every year was addressed to my mom. I treasured hearing that then, but I would have really treasured it in the days after her passing. Good reminder for us to be sensitive to this in talking with family members.
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You know more often than not I thought not saying anything would be more helpful. Thanks for this perspective. I love the William Penn quote.
ReplyDeleteI'm telling you. We need neighbors like you!!!!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. Remembering helps do much.
Maybe you can move here? :)
DeleteI agree, Jen.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful, warm hugs Xxx
I admit after the kids it was a bit hard to do, somehow it both welcome and intensely painful all at the same time ( you get this i know).
DeleteBut now any little story that I can hear that I've never heard before is heaven to me!
Beautiful. I think this is the best way to honor someone's life, isn't it? To talk about all the wonderful memories of them. They are never far. Sounds like you made your neighbor's day.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to think that we gave them some measure of comfort, thanks Jennifer.
DeleteThat is so sad! But what a wonderful thing to do. Sharing is like a hug. That is so true and probably the most heart-felt gift you can honor the family with.
ReplyDeleteDeep breath in, deep breath out. This is really beautiful, and I love the image of words being like a hug - because it's so true. Your words have given me many hugs, and I'm glad you were able to share that with this family.
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad but so sweet. I can understand them hanging on every word. You and Bill are good friends to them!
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