A-Z 2013 the letter N

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No! Are you one of those people who has a wave of guilt flow through their body when they say that word, No? 

No my "N" word. 

I used to be one of those people!

Then I realized that no was not a dirty word.

That was after I learned from a wise counselor that I could keep my personal relationships intact and say no to my friends and family.

For some reason I had this notion that the two were not mutually exclusive. 

There is hope however. I learned so I share a few brief tips. 

If someone asks you to do something this is what I would suggest..

1. Think before you speak. Try taking a deep breath before you say anything. If not yes might some flying out of you mouth and you could be the PTA president for the 12th time!
2. Say yes and no at the same time. How you ask? Tell your friend, boss or pastor.."Thank you so much for thinking of me however I'm afraid I just don't have time this month. I am available next month for such and such an event or project."
3. Check your calendar so you don't overbook, remember to think of yourself (you are allowed) and don't spread yourself to thin.
4. Always be polite but always be firm and mindful of your body language. 
5. Never say your sorry. If you do it sounds like you've done something wrong! 

And remember; saying no is never wrong.

As I was poking around the internet I came across a priceless story that I thought I'd include in this post. This is a perfect illustration of a person who had no problem saying no...to anyone!

Read it and giggle...

John Galbraith’s housekeeper was a whiz when it came to saying no. One day in 1965 the noted economist was taking a nap when President Lyndon Johnson called his home. “He’s taking a nap and has left strict orders not to be disturbed,” his housekeeper told the President. Johnson replied, “Well, I’m the President. Wake him up.” Her response? A simple: “I’m sorry, Mr. President, but I work for Mr. Galbraith, not for you.” Then she hung up. (this segment is a link to the full article)

Do you have problems saying no? -or- Have you found your comfort zone with the no word?

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