When I grew up respect for authority figures was the
norm. For instance, I didn't call my friends parents by their first names; they
were Mr. and Mrs. Smith or Jones not John and Jane. With my parents there were
no mixed messages. I respected the word and rule of my parents with a healthy
measure of fear of consequences. Being
that I grew up in a law enforcement family and a Catholic family, cops and the
religious were held in high esteem. It
made for and interesting mix of faith
and caution when it came to how I developed in all areas. Needless to say I
can truthfully tell you my family is an interesting bunch and that I had an
interesting upbringing.
Post their police careers my Dad and my Uncle went
into business together in the same beach community where our family beach house
was located. And it brings to mind a
something that happened when I was about 14 or 15 years old at the beach house.
I was glued to the TV watching my first airing of
The Godfather so I’m thinking 1974 or 1975. Of course timing being everything
it is just at the point of the movie when the director/producer finds the horse
head in his bed and my heart is racing, I’m alone and I hear… knock, knock, and
knock! I jumped about four feet off the couch made my way to the door to find
two men in suits standing at the door.
Remember what I said about faith and caution?
Enter faith.
“We’re agent Mulder and Scully (no that’s not their
real names, I stole those from the x-files) and we’re agents with the Federal Government
(FBI/ Secret Service) is your Dad home? He glanced to confirm my dad’s name on
his little pad, Henry right?” Without thought my hand went up to the lock but I
didn’t lock it, for now the door as a barrier was enough.
Enter
caution
At that point they each produced badges and showed
them to me. I remember thinking as I was looking at the badges; I should ask
for more I.D. if they’re real agents they’ll have ID too. “Can I see your I.D’s?
They showed me their picture ID’s.
Thinking back I’m sure they had already deduced that
I was home alone but I didn't want to tell them that myself after all I was a
kid and they were strangers. When I
mentioned I’m going to call Dad and tell him to come home they ask if they can
come in the house. Funny how even a thin storm door between them and me gave me
the tiny bit of courage. I said no and
told them to wait outside. Then I locked the storm and wood door and dialed
Dad.
Dad arrived in five minutes and they all came in
together. Introductions were made and they got down to business at hand which
if you’re curious had something to do with someone or other and counterfeit money
being passed in local businesses.
Then surprisingly one of the agents said to Dad with
a grin, “I’m guessing you were a cop?” “Yes.” Dad replied. “And you know this how?” The agent went on to exclaim. “Only a cop’s
kid would grill us about our credentials and then leave us on the porch, you
raised her well.” And he shook my Dads hand as if to congratulate him.
Then Dad turned to me. “Why didn’t you let them in?”
All three pairs of eyes turned towards me and I knew they were very curious to
hear my explanation. I took a deep breath knowing I had faith that I used common
sense and exercised caution the way my Dad had taught me in order to keep me
safe in an unsafe world.
Then I explained.
“The decision was simple.” “How was I supposed to know the badges and
I.D’s were real if I’ve never seen one before?”
“For all I know they could have come from the five and ten cent store.”
Smiling at you brave chick!
ReplyDeleteI was scared shirtless!
DeleteBrilliant! Your daddy didn't raise no fool!
ReplyDeleteHe sure tried his darnedest :)
DeleteThats a nice recall. My dad would have strung me up if I had let strangers in the hose ! lol
ReplyDeleteThat thought crossed my mind too Lisa.
DeleteIts interesting with them being in law enforcement so to speak, and them deducing you were probably home alone, that they still would have asked to come into the house. To protect themselves, I would have thought they would have wanted to wait outside. Its kind of like when I take a little one to the bathroom at church, I always wait by the door with the door halfway open so that I don't stand a chance of getting accused of anything, know what I mean?
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I couldn't begin to guess weather being alone with an adolescent girl was something they were concerned about back in the 70's.
DeleteYou're right now we always have to be mindful even with kids we know. Sort of sad.
You rule.
ReplyDeleteTrue story...I was on the phone with my mother in law who has the habit of never shutting up. There was a knock on the door and I opened it. it was supposed to be the cable guy but turned out to be some dude who was supposed to be next door to fix their washing machine. he just went downstairs...stupid me.
He came up and grilled me about letting people in the house without asking why they are there. Lesson learned.
I'm glad that you're one smart kid!
Holy crap!
DeleteGreat choice. Badges can be fake, just like the claim of guys who say 'your parents sent me to pick you up because they had an emergency.' A stranger is a stranger, no matter what.
ReplyDeleteI'll have to tell my son your story. :)
Any trained police officer or agent should understand that a child would want to call their parents. It makes sense, really.
DeleteYou are soooo SMART :)
ReplyDeleteI would have let Ted Bundy in if he asked. WHAT a dork!
Xxxx
Oh noooo!
DeleteWell done Jen. You had a good dose of common sense even back then.
ReplyDeleteI've always been a bit of a rebel :)
DeleteOh man! The "real" FBI! And you held your own. That is awesome! And I'm sure Dad was secretly super proud. :-)
ReplyDeleteOften wondered what my father's reaction would have been if they were aggravated with me.
DeleteWhat a smart kid you were...are, Jen!
ReplyDeleteGreat story and I bet not too many kids would have reacted how you did! Your parents did good!
Probably didn't have to be quite as cautious back then. I've always had a healthy suspicion of those who have power over me.... especially because they can wield it. The 60's taught me that, not my dad.
DeleteThat's great, Jen. Smart girl!
ReplyDeleteHi Jen - well that's better .. and obviously your Dad raised you well. It's always better to be safe than sorry!
ReplyDeleteCheers Hilary
My parent's weren't in law enforcement but owned a convenient store where getting robbed was not unusual.. and I think that threat made us more cautious by nature. Hope we can pass it on and instill it into our children.. great post.
ReplyDeleteI had not thought about what a quagmire faith and and caution create when both are necessary in a given situation. You handled it well! :-) How is the garden? We dodged a frost last week. A hundred feet up the lane in the open field, they got it. Nice to see you!
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