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My "A" word is “argument" I think we can probably all agree without argument that the divorce rates are through the roof in our society. It's not easy being married. I consider arguing a healthy part of a relationship. BUT...Do it badly and it will kill a relationship.
I don’t know about you, but when I meet couples who say they
don’t argue I have to wonder whether they’re really all that truthful.
Every couple argues. After thirty plus
years of marriage I can vouch for that fact.
I also believe there is a right and a wrong way to argue.
This is the wrong way...
General disrespect, name calling, foul language. physical violence, arguing in the presence of the children or “winning the argument attitude” are not the right way.
The reality of life is that...
Not all couples are on the same page in all matters. There the kids, money, sex, and extended family, friends, work schedules, the kids’ activities and friends; it goes on and on. With the hectic pace of family
life and the complexities of our human relationships there is bound to be
differences of opinions and arguments.
That’s why it is so important to argue the right way; temper your arguments with understanding, love and respect.
How you ask?
Mainly it entails listening to your spouse, really listening without interruption. Refute if you must when you give your side of the argument but keep in mind his /her point of view is just as important to him/her if it wasn't you wouldn't be arguing. Establish the difference or disagreement and remember it is not a contest.
Mainly it entails listening to your spouse, really listening without interruption. Refute if you must when you give your side of the argument but keep in mind his /her point of view is just as important to him/her if it wasn't you wouldn't be arguing. Establish the difference or disagreement and remember it is not a contest.
Winning above all else should not be the goal of any argument, it garners
resentment and in the end you will both lose.
So my dear readers and visitors from A-Z do tell....
Do you do or say or do something especially effective when you argue that you'd like to share that helps you through your arguments?
Or is there something your significant other or ex does/did that just drives you mad when you argue?
So my dear readers and visitors from A-Z do tell....
Do you do or say or do something especially effective when you argue that you'd like to share that helps you through your arguments?
Or is there something your significant other or ex does/did that just drives you mad when you argue?
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