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Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.
Steve Maraboli
I found this quote when I was poking around trying to come up with an "M" subject for today's post. "Moving On" is something we will do many times in the course of our lives.
Starting as youngsters we moved on in school, from primary through to the higher grades and then to college. We might leave beloved friends or teachers behind. I can presume you've moved on from the comfort and security of your parents home to independent living, maybe marriage or a domestic partnership? Maybe like me at some point you may have even moved to another part of the country or a different city or neighborhood. I think there's always an emotional component to moving on from those things and places we are most familiar.
Then there's other types of moving on, the more emotional types. The first day of school when your child moves from being the constant fixture at Mommy and Daddy's side and will now take a teensy step away to learn and play. Or when you feel that sad/ happy mix of emotion when the kids move out and move on with their lives as independent young adults. Or their wedding day, just saying!
But life has other moments the most painful "moving on " moments like the loss of ones job or income in a difficult economy. How does one move on from that? Then there's relationship break-ups/ divorce which can cause terrible turmoil and life changing for couples especially if children are involved. And or course the death of a loved one, a parent, a spouse or partner or a child. And I shouldn't forget a beloved family pet!
You may be wondering why I picked that specific quote. I've listed many circumstances of which one can move on, I've experienced a terrible personal tragedy. "Moving on" doesn't mean forgetting , moving on doesn't mean closure. Moving on for me means being grateful for what I've had/have and going on with my life- moving on.
That's why I see wisdom in that quote. What exactly did I "move on" from you may be wondering? The death of my son and daughter.
Would you like to join me and share your experience with something you've had to "move on" from?
Thank you for sharing your very personal insight and story. :) ~Angela
ReplyDeleteThank you being one of my regular readers during this A-Z Challenge Angela, you've been more than kind to me and I appreciate it more than you know.
DeleteThat was a lovely post it really made me think. My first thought was that you write very like me,I will have to read more of your posts to find out.Thanks for finding me because it enabled me to find you.
ReplyDeleteI'm am silly just relised I visited here a few days ago. Visiting so many blogs during this challenge.
DeleteYou're very welcome! I've enjoyed reading your writing as well.
DeleteVery powerful post today. We lost my Dad almost 14 years ago....sometimes it feels like only yesterday. We also lost my husband's niece five years ago, his dad 3 years ago, and his mom only two years ago.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine how hard it must be to lose a child.....Please accept a big virtual hug from me and I have to say, you must be so strong.
Cheers-I look forward more of your posts.
Well Kathleen I'd love to send a hug right back to you! Your family has suffered an awful amount of loss over a rather short period of time, I'm sorry Kathleen.
DeleteMy mother died when I was 3, and though I long ago "moved on," it was--and remains--the defining event of my life, in ways no one who hasn't experienced such a loss could imagine. I suspect moving on after losing children is even more difficult.
ReplyDeleteI haven't lost anyone close, but moving on from a low point in life, which is where I'm at now, is also important. Six months from now, when I'm running again and 25 pounds lighter, the past will be forgotten for me.
ReplyDeleteThat's remarkable,you're a very lucky woman on that score. And of course I do wish you well and good luck in moving on from this point in your life to a better place one you want to be!
DeleteJen, I've know since my very first visit here what a strong woman you are. It's obvious from your blog and how your personality just shines through that you have been able to move on. I don't know how you did it, but I do know what a rock, a source of strength, you have been to your family.
ReplyDeleteI can't even begin to imagine going through what you've been through, and pray to God that I never will. As much as mothers can deal with, that's one thing we never want to have to face.
I've had so many losses, almost all of my relatives outside of my immediate family including both of my parents. I've learned how to accept that death is a part of life but I know it's a totally different process that what you have been through.
It's hard to find the right words to express my feelings, and there are really no words that exist that could really express it - such deep compassion and total admiration is the best I can do. (((Hugs)))
Jen, popped in here from the a-z challenge and was brought to tears by reading that you had lost two children. You have clearly gained some healing, but I know your heart will never be the same. I, too, am Catholic - so nice to find another one! - and became a follower so I can share in your journey. I admire that you are open with your losses...being vulnerable is what brings us all closer. My "M" day today was about recently losing an uncle. If you want to stop by my "Ballpark", I would be honored. You can get there by clicking on my name. God bless you!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry that you lost your son and daughter. I can only imagine what you've been going through all of these years. You have such a positive outlook, and I love that you take such great care of your mom! I'm still amazed that you built a house for her next door, and you're thinking about doing even more! You truly are a wonderful person Jen! Julie
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